Silent sex struggles many people go through in relationships.
A SPOUSE WHO WANTS TOO MUCH SEX.
Some are married to a spouse (often tie husband) who wants sex regularly. This can easily make one feel used. Usually in such situations, the emotional connection is also weak. Address this by learning to do other things as a couple that doesn’t involve sex.
A SPOUSE WHO IS NOT INTERESTED IN SEX.
Some are married to a spouse (often time wife) who shows no interest in sex, perhaps because of emotional strain, past wounds, hormones, negative views towards the spouse as a result of the inflicted. Address this by talking things out, open up, change contraceptives. Realize that lovemaking is important in marriage.
A SPOUSE WHO DOES NOT TAKE CARE OF PERSONAL HYGIENE.
It is a struggle to kiss, lick, touch, rub, or even make love to someone who doesn’t brush their teeth, shower, wear the same underwear for days, or doesn’t care about presentation. If you have such a spouse, encourage each other to shower together, buy him/her underwear, and recommend they be worn to excite you, form a couple’s routine. If you are the culprit, remember that hygiene inspires intimacy.
Lust will make you struggle to be faithful, it will make you flirt with others over the phone, at the workplace, in the neighborhood, and soon on social media making it uncomfortable for your spouse. It can affect your desire for your spouse. Lust dies when you stop feeding it. Check out of lustful conversations, see people around you with respect, not sexual objects.
UNMET SEXUAL EXPECTATIONS.
There is nothing as frustrating as being married but your sexual needs are not being fully met. Most likely they are not being fully met because you have not lovingly communicated to your spouse what you want, your favorite sexual positions, and your fantasies. But remember, before you expect your spouse to meet your sexual needs, meet his/her sexual needs.
MEMORIES OF AN EX WHO USED TO BE GREAT IN BED.
Some people are fighting the memories they had of their ex/exes in bed. As they have sex with their spouse, they have images of the ex in mind. Let go of the past. See your spouse for the uniqueness he/she is. Start to praise your spouse sexually and your mind will register your spouse as the new definition of sexy.
Pornography will distract you from cultivating intimacy with your spouse. It will make you ignore your spouse without you knowing it just to look at videos and pictures of naked strangers banging. Address this by desiring the real thing, not illusions and porn stars. Train yourself to say no.
Masturbation will make your spouse compete with your fingers. Your fingers will most likely win because you know how to please yourself but your marriage will lose. Address this by teaching your spouse how you want him/her to please you since you have already learned your body
A PENIS THAT CANNOT SUSTAIN AN ERECTION.
Most men lose their erections due to panic or lack of concentration because sex starts in the mind. Address this by calming down, relax, be in the moment, enjoy every sensation.
A PENIS THAT EJACULATES TOO QUICKLY.
If she makes you ejaculate that means she is so sweet and that is a good thing but what she desires is that you stay hard longer. Last by stopping the pumping when you feel you are about to climax, change positions at that time so that you look cool while at it.
If you doubt your sexiness and performance then intimacy will suffer. Confidence is crucial when it comes to all things sex. Embrace your body, your tummy, sagging breasts, stretch marks, balding head, your physique. Take care of your body, work out. Flaunt to your spouse what is good about you. Praise each other’s looks and performance to boost confidence
When another is already servicing your body, you will come home to a spouse you are not interested in. On top of that, you will be filled with guilt to the point that you struggle to connect with your spouse; and if your spouse suspects or knows, he/she will shut you out. Just let the affair end.
COMPARISONS WITH OTHER COUPLES.
When you hear or read the colorful sex stories of other couples, of how the wife squirts, how the husband lasts for forty minutes, how the wife rides like a pro, how the husband feasts on her clitoris till she cries; you might begin to question your marriage and whether you two are happily married. Each marriage is unique, make your special memories.